I’m not listened to
When we feel we are not being listened to it can make us feel angry and frustrated. When we don’t listen to each other it makes talking about the difficult stuff even harder and things just go round in circles.
When we feel we are not being listened to it can make us feel angry and frustrated. When we don’t listen to each other it makes talking about the difficult stuff even harder and things just go round in circles.
Try and see the situation from the other person’s shoes.
“You just assume it was my fault. He started it.”
“You two are always fighting. I’ve lost count of who started it. I just want some peace and quiet in the house.
The best way to get someone to listen to you is to let them know you are listening to them. Example:
Consider lots of options to solve the problem.
Being listened to means that the other person needs to trust what you’re saying. We build trust in relationships by being honest with each other and admitting when we do stuff that we shouldn’t.
Finding a good time and place to talk with your family about stuff is important.
Make sure you won’t be interrupted by anyone else.
Choose a time where you are both around - not 5 minutes before one of you has to run out the door.
It helps if you’re not already angry with each other about something else.
After working through the steps above and considering your own situation, you may find it helpful to know more about conflict resolution and mediation.
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Sam is much happier now that he and his mum know how to deal with their arguments better.
If you get together and talk about it, I've often seen people come up with much better solutions themselves.
Paul Burns, Mediator
We still have our arguments, but we deal with them a lot better now.
Kerry, Sam's Mum